a number of months back i decided maybe i could meet a really cool girl through one of the many online dating sites. (don't laugh...i mean, it's not completely in the realm of fantasy, right?) so i signed up for a few and looked around. (and have done almost nothing beyond looking.) i had heard about eharmony and decided to check it out too.
i went to their site, signed up, and went through the extensive self-evaluation question thing. at the end it said "hey, you put that you're separated, and since we're christians we won't match people who are married or separated. but thanks for spending all that time filling out our survey. you can still see our personality profile of you. and come back when you're legitimate." or something along those lines. i respect the moral position, but my wife had bolted to california, told me in no uncertain terms that it was over, and was making moves to take as much easy money as she could get from me via the legal system. it just would have been nice for them to say upfront when i checked the "separated" box that it didn't really mean anything for me to go through their whole question system.
anyway, time passes and i get legally divorced. so i decide to go back and change my status on eharmony. except there isn't a place to do it. at all. so i email support and explain the situation. no response, no change, nothing. so a few weeks later i log in and look around again. still nothing. so i send another email. wait, wait...nothing. i send a third email. still nothing.
so after a couple of months, i finally break down and decide i'll sign up again with a different email address and go through the whole survey thing. *sigh* oh joy. i make sure and check "divorced" this time and finally get through all the questions. i get to the results page and what do i see staring back at me?
"eHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive research with married couples. One of the requirements for successful matching is that participants to fall within certain defined profiles. If we find that we will not be able to match a user using these profiles, we feel it is only fair to inform them early in the process.
We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish happy, lasting relationships that we sometimes choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match.
Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time."
hrmh. i'm still uncertain as to how i should interpret this. does it mean that i'm no good for anybody in a relationship because i'm completely jacked up? or does it mean i have a unique enough personality that i don't fall into convenient/simple categorization demographics? it'd be kind of nice if their system gave a bit better explanation of what makes me not fall into one of their defined profiles.
plus now i've had to fill out that long survey twice, with very little to show for it at the end. although i must admit their personality analysis info is kind of cool. i'm not sure that alone makes the time it takes to go through the whole thing worthwhile though.